As easy as just tossing a plastic water bottle anywhere but the right bin, the bad effects on our environment and wildlife sneak up on us, and build up, until they become a big problem. Our little actions can mess up the environment’s delicate balance and cause serious problems. Similarly, when we mess with someone’s reputation, we’re messing with their life, work and family balance, along with our judicial system when it escalates to false allegations. That is why it’s really important to figure out early why someone would want to go down that path in the first place. Don’t be blind sighted.

If someone is out to wreck your career, smear your good name, and basically kick you to the curb with your tail between your legs, they’re probably just a jealous and bitter person. But what if it’s your partner scheming your downfall because they can’t stand to see you doing well and moving on. They may very well have deep-seated issues and emotional baggage and feel insecure, that you have tolerated in the past, but you’re their target now, so, shield yourself from their negativity and its harmful effects to control you. Reach out to people you trust and get help from professionals to deal with these tough times because often, you’re the last one to know that you are out of your depth. It sneaks up on you and before long, your domestic situation has turned serious and your relationship with your kids is in jeopardy and possibly your freedom.

Messing with your relationship with your kids just to manipulate how they see you, shows a total lack of care for the well-being of the kids involved. Co-parenting should be all about making sure the kids are emotionally okay and stable without any sneaky influences. It might be necessary to get legal help and set clear boundaries to shield your kids from unnecessary emotional stress because they will be upset and confused.

Additionally, if you didn’t think that was enough, when you’re kicked out of your house just so they get a leg up in money matters during family court, it’s a low blow that shows the other person cares more about cash than doing the right thing. It’s super important to get legal backup to protect your rights and push for fair solutions when dealing with this kind of unfair behaviour.

In tough times like these, just know that the way others treat you doesn’t define your worth. It’s important to ask for help, take care of yourself, and stay strong to feel empowered and secure again.

An interesting quote below applies to anyone who twists the truth but our focus in this post is on male victims of domestic violence. And for those who don’t know, in Australia, falsely raising an AVO with the intent to have someone investigated, knowing they’re innocent, is a criminal offence. You could land up in hot water for up to of 7 years. (check out Section 314 of the Crimes Act 1900)

A WOMAN WHO DISTORTS THE TRUTH TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER SO SHE CAN FORCE HER PARTNER OUT OF HIS HOME IS ABUSING HER PARTNER AND THE SYSTEM MEANT TO PROTECT PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY NEED THE PROTECTION.

ANN SILVERS, MA AUTHOR OF “ABUSE OF MEN BY WOMEN”.